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[vicarz]

Yeah don't look at okc and see the person you think might be taking seriously has updated their profile...like tonight, after we adjusted to set plans for tomorrow night. And I can't even judge because I updated my profile. How fucking dare you be as shitty and not sure if interested as me.

I know I'm talking crap but I totally just feel like chucking everything. Chuck fear of failure, and lack of fear of rejection. Fuck fucking. Fucking not fucking to try and connect with real people. Fuck in person interaction and online anything.

God fuck all of this.

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[vicar.livejournal.com]

I thought about taking down this inarticulate rant.

[justaputz.livejournal.com]

Hey, if you felt like posting it, don't take it down... I never tried the online dating sites but being me back when I was single, I never thought I had a chance at the dating/married life. I've always thought of LJ as a good place to rant and share for that matter. Much more intimate and not as in your face as FB. Your posts are more interesting than nine tenths of the other stuff I see posted.....

[vicar.livejournal.com]

[shutterbug.livejournal.com]

It's a fair rant. Dating (and dating sites) are shit.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I'm not immature, I'm full of vigor and youth! It's wonderful that I can be so responsible and yet in touch with my emotional side.

I never dated before; or not in the formal sense. I should probably update my attitudes and experiences. I'm still grossed out that people are eharmony fucking. Really, sex from eharmony dates, really? But she seemed so smart...

Thanks though, nice to hear that my frustration, on any level, might be understandable.

[shutterbug.livejournal.com]

There's a friend here on LJ that called is "OkStupid."

In the meantime, I met my fiancee on Plenty of Fish, but I will be the first to admit that I'm shocked he was there and he was equally shocked I was there. And I still hate online dating even if it did work for me.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Most if not all my friends use the okstupid descriptor for online dating (not familiar with plentyfish, but that's a fun name). I miss when they were the onion.

I'm not anti-online dating at all - I think I far prefer it as my dating exp was generally going to the same goth/ind nightclubs multiple times a week and knowing the regulars and related social circles. Since that world doesn't or barely exists anymore, and is hardly a good measure of relationship compatibility, trolling clubs or bars seems much more of a longshot than online general profile matching.

To me it's a great start, but I don't think you can tell if you're going to be attracted or not until you meet in person - pictures are old, picked, shopped, and just flat-out lie; plus in-person may honestly just not be the same. "Clicking" can only be determined in person. So to me connecting online, meeting in person to talk, that's just a starting point - it was when I was single last time (before getting back together with my ex).

Glad there are some success stories.

[seaopaque.livejournal.com]

For some reason I am just now seeing this post, which I can see why you considered deleting. It's pretty, well, crazy/full of feelings.

This comment got my goat, a lot. He can't possibly be talking about me, can he? No, he can't. 'Cause I will very likely read this. Anyway, I don't know how fucking off eHarmony is any different from fucking off OKC or POF (Plenty of Fish; Vancouver-based site; I worked there and deleted dick pics all day). Anyway, just wanted to wave my hand and say, "Smart chicks fuck eHarmony dates! Maybe wish they hadn't after, but it happens..."

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I JUST heard of pof and at least love the name.

I ... eharmony is practically xtianmingle down here - maybe it's better up there. From what I know I saw ew, a huge EW.

I say that happily, and openly, flirting with you.

[seaopaque.livejournal.com]

You must have missed my posts about the HORRIBLE EW DATE I had with a lawyer I met on eH. Your ew is among friends. Ew. EWWW. And the guy who lied about his age? My googling had brought up some conflicting information so I asked him his birth year. He hadn't even gotten his story straight. His purported age and birth year didn't match! He sent me a message after that "date" (weirdest bookstore walkaround thing) calling things off and I was going to write back and say, "Is it because you lied about your age?" but didn't. I should have. Jerk.

Oh, well then. Please. Continue.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Oh shit you're up...blush and still flirt. But a little blush.

[seaopaque.livejournal.com]

We're even, then. On the blushing front.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

So hi, now I reach out to you and I may be foolish but I don't have to feel guilty. No promises I say realistically, with a side of possibly maybe.

My email is [deleted from the comment]. Deleting comment presuming you get email notification.

PLUS GOING TO BED BECAUSE TOMORROW I GET SHOT IN THE ASS OR SOMETHING