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[vicarz]

Yeah don't look at okc and see the person you think might be taking seriously has updated their profile...like tonight, after we adjusted to set plans for tomorrow night. And I can't even judge because I updated my profile. How fucking dare you be as shitty and not sure if interested as me.

I know I'm talking crap but I totally just feel like chucking everything. Chuck fear of failure, and lack of fear of rejection. Fuck fucking. Fucking not fucking to try and connect with real people. Fuck in person interaction and online anything.

God fuck all of this.

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[shutterbug.livejournal.com]

There's a friend here on LJ that called is "OkStupid."

In the meantime, I met my fiancee on Plenty of Fish, but I will be the first to admit that I'm shocked he was there and he was equally shocked I was there. And I still hate online dating even if it did work for me.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Most if not all my friends use the okstupid descriptor for online dating (not familiar with plentyfish, but that's a fun name). I miss when they were the onion.

I'm not anti-online dating at all - I think I far prefer it as my dating exp was generally going to the same goth/ind nightclubs multiple times a week and knowing the regulars and related social circles. Since that world doesn't or barely exists anymore, and is hardly a good measure of relationship compatibility, trolling clubs or bars seems much more of a longshot than online general profile matching.

To me it's a great start, but I don't think you can tell if you're going to be attracted or not until you meet in person - pictures are old, picked, shopped, and just flat-out lie; plus in-person may honestly just not be the same. "Clicking" can only be determined in person. So to me connecting online, meeting in person to talk, that's just a starting point - it was when I was single last time (before getting back together with my ex).

Glad there are some success stories.