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[vicarz]

There is a new girl in the office next door who looks hot - which is very odd, as this is a government facility. My boss noticed her, and pointed out she had a "passion mark" on her neck. That seems weird for an adult to me. It struck me that I couldn't remember the last time I had a hickey. How about you?
When was the last time you had a hickey? How did you get it, who was it from, did you cover it up and how, and do you actively avoid marks today or is your passion expressed in a way that doesn't leave those particular marks?

My answer: honestly I can't remember the last time I had a hickey. I learned how to chomp without leaving marks in high school, and also in high school kind of got used to the neck chomp so it's not as passion-provoking as it once was. Someone may correct my memory, but I suspect I haven't had an actual hickey in at least 5 years - maybe 10.

I just love it when I press my tongue into you and you explode in my mouth.
José to a truffle

I took my icon-plushie with me last night to chronos, which was cute until I realized carrying the little fella with me all night was a pain. I danced with him in hand more than once - I'm sore that I don't think Putz caught one such incident in pictures. It was noted that I was boxing-dancing again - so I did at least one song with my hands in my pockets. Please tell me who taught cosmo how to count to 4 in german so I can kick them in the teeth. I was as weird as I worried I might be though, so I ran away before midnight and hid in the dark playing Lords II. I wish I could figure out why I like playing this and starcraft, alone, doing scenarios I know I can win (really flat-out cheating in L2) over and over.

I made the horrible mistake of reading this week's savage love while eating toast. Breakfast interrupted. Bathroom even scarier.

Comments

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

Bah. Most of us who have sex more frequently than once a moon know how to chomp without leaving marks. 'Course, that doesn't mean there aren't adults with a fetish. I know women, and I emphasize the term women (and professional in a public view job) who not just like but demand a "souvenir," though they want it someplace that can be discrete if necessary.

Also...no amount of skill, technique, or knowledge can overcome the "oops...I was that drunk..sorry."

[ashbet]

*raises hand*

*is one of those women*

They don't have to be on PUBLIC view, but I think that bite marks/bruises/scratches are hot as hell ^_^

-- A <3

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

...and we haven't met?
Well, to be fair to the boy with his whole "body is my temple, obstacle course, and control fetish" of course he views marks as a lack of elegance and sign of amateurish coupling. Then again, there can be an artistry to souvenirs...but I digress...

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Well, I do give everyone I sleep with a tattoo on their forhead that says "Next!"

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

...only because the tramp stamps interfere with where you actually wish to place it...

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

oh - and re: the games -- it is called comfort gaming. You do this the same way that I play civilizations x, or someone else might level their class of choice in WoW; interaction with others only if you want it (in your case I don't expect you on battlenet right now), a set of clear goals or tactics to employ....so you can use it to clear some thoughts BUT exert control and accomplish something in a realm that you can always turn off when disappointed.

[greekphilosophy.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'm of the WoW comfort gamer variety. By the end of law school, I had maxed out a handful of characters. For me it isn't the glory of progress or getting to know people, it's the mindless and repetitive nature of knowing exactly how to level up a character quickly and effectively. It's almost like masturbating - but without any cleanup required.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

WoW...with or without kleenex!

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

Preach on! seriously, my old high school D&D buddies play their level 70s once a week. I started my first (and only) 'toon in may and have just breached the level 50 barrier. I don't have the mindless leveling down, but last night is a good example of being too fried to work on another paper proposal, or on the current projects, so I spent 2 hours leveling my lockpicking and gathering pot mats. *shrug*

[greekphilosophy.livejournal.com]

Yeah. My boyfriend asked that I hop on one of my 70s and run him through instances for his birthday so he can level enchanting. That's easy enough! Good and mindless.

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

as an old school gamer...I just have to do it myself. Add to this some difficulties with fine mouse control (I use a wacom pad and there is a brief lag using its mouse...but that's another topic).

[pictsy.livejournal.com]

Please tell me who taught cosmo how to count to 4 in german so I can kick them in the teeth.

omg lol

Karl gave me hickeys all the time, so I guess my last one must have been a few months ago.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Obviously you weren't adults ;p

[pictsy.livejournal.com]

For real

[justaputz.livejournal.com]

Sorry I didn't get a picture, I should have at least taken 1. I only spoke to you once when I came in so I wasn't up to speed yet. So many missed photos....

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Heh...how spoiled am I that I whined about the free artist who missed what I wanted captured? No need to apologize Mr. Sir :)

[justaputz.livejournal.com]

But I should have taken a pic. I have so many pics of people with their furry little animals....

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW>>>>>>>>>>

[justaputz.livejournal.com]

I thought of many other less savory comments but I thought I kept it clean

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I was trying to avoid the mental image of you taking pictures of furries!

[greekphilosophy.livejournal.com]

I've never had a hickey. In college, my boyfriend always wanted to give me one. At one point, I considered relenting in my protestations and letting him suck on my inner thigh for a while, but ultimately held firm in my conviction that having a hickey - visible or not - would somehow ruin me.

I was sexless in high school, so while everyone else was getting covered in hickeys, I was simply sitting back and being judgmental and/or jealous.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Aw, I can relate and imagine a bit. HS was not the peak of my existence, to say the least - glad you are so open about it. Most people aren't even aware that they're jealous when they're busy passing judgment. Or judgement.

[ex-dasboot.livejournal.com]

The off-beat, fake german, countdown I can deal with.

The screaming at the dj/other dancers to "pump it up you fuckers", or whatever, I can deal with.

The lack of underwear and the kilt and the purposeful spinning around/falling down just to show his junk I cannot deal with.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

You know, once again you have shaken me away from my blissful ignorance. Shame. However, your icon makes up for my reality burst.

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

Now, having enough German to curse his shriveled *junk*, or better, Serbian, that would be amusing...

[joanarkham.livejournal.com]

I don't remember the last time I had a hickey. I think I had to tell my mom I "burned my neck with the curing iron" so that was a loooong time ago.

I bruise super easy though (due to the low blood pressure???) and I feel the need to hide the bruises at work. I'm not a battered woman, honest!

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I think I was 15, and she wasn't, when her mom picked her up and asked what the mark on her neck was. She said "I don't know, but it sure itches!" and started scratching. Crafty little thing she was.

[turbogrrl.livejournal.com]

I last had a hickey a few weeks ago. For some reason the boytoy likes chewing on me. And honestly, i'd be lying if i said it didn't feel good. I just get annoyed that I bruise easily.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_blackjack_/]

I gave a hickey or two over the summer. May have received one, I don't recall. I was admonished at least once not to leave marks...

[http://users.livejournal.com/_blackjack_/]

Please tell me who taught cosmo how to count to 4 in german so I can kick them in the teeth.

Would it not be more effective to cut out the middle-man and kick Cosmo in the teeth? Or at least more rewarding?

[vicar.livejournal.com]

The thought's occurred, but people seem to like him. I don't know him personally.

[darkgypsy13.livejournal.com]

Dude i hate hickeys. It makes you feel owned. The last time i got a hickey was when my boyfriend 7 yrs ago decided to be funny and give one right on the tip of the nose...well..after punching him numerous of times i had to go to school with a big red/purplish dot on my nose. That is when i told myself ohhhh never again will i ever endure one of those.

[eac.livejournal.com]

Dude i hate hickeys. It makes you feel owned.

Ha. I used to like feeling owned. I probably haven't had a hickey for a decade, but the Boy bruises a lot more easily than I do. :)

[darkgypsy13.livejournal.com]

Lolol true dat! XD

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

Interesting...I never saw it as a mark of ownership. I saw it (them) as marks confirming desirability, or that indicated someone who enjoyed sex. Of course...I also overread them and assumed that meant a self-awareness (because of the public projection of image) and therefore someone who knew the difference between lust and love.

Hmmm...this is friday...now it all makes sense.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Oh no - I'm on the opposite page. I would not even consider hitting on anyone with a bite mark, and would assume very comfortably that they were quite taken. I also agree they are possessory in nature and used as territorial postings by teens.

Difference between lust and love? Perhaps I'm an old prude, but I don't want a piece of what everyone else already has/had. Hickeys kinda make you look used - cute if you're taken, gross if you're just a vagabond.

[eac.livejournal.com]

"I never saw it as a mark of ownership."

Well, it depends on the situation...

[rivetangel.livejournal.com]

Could be a birthmark. I had a boss at my old job who had a birthmark that looked just like a hickey.

[telie13.livejournal.com]

Hickey, like 12th grade?

Also, OH. MY. God. Thanks for the savage love linkage jose.

[novaya-zemlya.livejournal.com]

The whole ownership think only counts if you put them where they can be seen. I've had several lady friends who liked marks on the bum or inner thigh. Just a memory of a pleasant evening. Heh. Dirty work, but someone has to do it.

[faeriemage.livejournal.com]

Back in the college days, people used to be able to identify my mark-making handywork, and would call me out on it. I didn't do it on purpose and it took practice to fix.

[cweaselle.livejournal.com]

I don't really know what a hicky is & you would have to tell me if I've ever had one before because you'd probably know better than me. Half of what you wrote today didn't make sense to me (Soje) Talk to you this weekend at some point when I'm not either at the Thrift Store or trying to describe an African Daisy. :)