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Sadly I take everything for granted. I know better intellectually, but it's really hard not to. Today I am working from home, AGAIN, yet I'm demoralized as a government worker. I'm pissed that my pay is frozen from COLAs for the next 2 years, though I live far beneath my means and have about a month off every year in leave. In a relationship many little things bother me, as though all the good parts quickly become normal. It's idiotic and potentially destructive.

I know better, and I need to find a way to really try to keep perspective. I'm negative as hell, and while that works for me financially and with work situations, I need to balance that with more appreciation of the good things I have. A caveman who only avoid bears will eventually starve for want of sweet berries. I really have some great things going on with my job now! Why am I always so unhappy with work, focused on this petty worker conflict, our Director's career goals, or even the whopping 2 year pay freeze?
My boss lets me work at home whenever I want - I report to the office because I _want_ to when I do. I save $$$ not driving 2-3 days a week.
My bills are paid, I'm "flush" as a result of conservative living.
I already chose to get less pay for the vacation benefits, and I get about a month off a year in vacation time plus holidays. That still, 2-3% not raised every year, does not suck!
I have a girlfriend. A good one. I'm lucky she even talks to me.
Wah stocks. I have them at all.
I can't squat 400lbs, but I can 275 and likely more. I may have hurt my knee, but it probably won't last forever and I can run 2-5 miles reliably. I has healths.
Must. Appreciate. Reasonably.

Anyone else notice choose and chose seem to be the new two to and too?
Their there they're never went away.

My eljay friends complain "eljay is dead" with surprising regularity. None seem happy with the alternative facebook provides. I thought they were being silly until I realized the ratio of people I know in person to people I met in fb has changed in my f-list. I'm sad most of my in-person friends aren't writing as much, but happy I've found a fuckton of interesting and intelligent people who write things on a regular basis. In my case, I didn't just stick to my known friends - I let others ad me and thanks a bunch to my gymrats community wound up being added a bunch myself. We all play a role in our existence.

Don't worry - after 4am coffee tomorrow, made fresh from free trade organic beans freshly squished through my conical burr grinder, I'll probably find something to be horrified by that seems to bear 1-3 pages of posting time.

Oh and then there are those pending powersquid pictures and "was/am" pictures I never got around to...

Date: 2011-03-23 05:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antarctico.livejournal.com
My eljay friends complain "eljay is dead" with surprising regularity. None seem happy with the alternative Facebook provides.

LJ is dead for the primary purpose most of our friends list used it for -- closed-circled social networking and tweet length posts. LJ is not dead if it is treated as what it is, which is a blog site. I suspect those of our friends using Fazebook who are dissatisfied are feeling this way because FB is a poor substitute for a dedicated blogging site which gives you the anonymity and space to speak more freely and more in depth than is possible on FB.

Damn -- not a bit of snark or vitriol anywhere in this reply. How unlike me.

Date: 2011-03-23 06:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] peregrin8.livejournal.com
Yeah... my favorite aspect of LJ for closed-circled social networking is its ability to accept much longer than tweet-length comments, and its clear threaded commenting. I haven't found any other e-place to hang out that gives that.

Date: 2011-03-23 07:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
I do miss that aspect being stronger. I'm a quality vs. quantity person, though a huge fan of quantity too...how trashy of me...

Date: 2011-03-23 08:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antarctico.livejournal.com
Well, I decided to personally stop feeling mopey about how empty it has gotten around here and start posting again, and what do you know, coincidentally, my friends list has just been hopping today.

Date: 2011-03-23 08:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
Ka-ching!

I'm also discouraging the reaction of "I should post more" in those cases where the effort makes posting more work than fun.

Date: 2011-03-24 01:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fitfool.livejournal.com
You could try keeping a gratitude journal where you keep jotting down things to be glad about in your life -- like your list in this post but keep adding to it.

LJ IS dead if you don't restock your f-list. But then again, that seems true for just about any social circle. People come and go all the time.

Date: 2011-03-24 03:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] likethewatch.livejournal.com
I'm surprised to hear anyone say they use LJ for closed-circle social networking... that thing we use FB for. Only a few of my friends have LJ accounts but practically all of them are on FB. I read people on LJ that I've never met, like [livejournal.com profile] vicar, because I use the communities (like [livejournal.com profile] gymrats) to meet people.

Date: 2011-03-24 09:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
I actually totally use gymrats like a reference book with no thought of meeting anyone, but to my surprise it's been a great place to meet people. Who wudda thought so many gym people were so literate ;P

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