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[vicarz]

More from "I don't know:" Marriage
Today's not important line of thought started when talking to a friend in the gym who I hadn't seen in ages (a girl from the original Gold's boxing club, washboard abs > age 40) was when she mentioned someone I know having long-term relationship problems with his girl, problems I didn't know about. She theorized that he was with her because he had been with her so long he didn't know what else to do, or feared the alternatives. This is a strong woman, but her note was that you never compromise and settle in a relationship. She hadn't, but noted that all of her friends who committed despite problems are all getting divorces (with and without kids). We debated a bit, and I don't know what the answer, or my answer, is on that subject. It's not important right now, but I've been noting recently that sometimes the difference between a relationship and not was simply deciding to commit and staying committed. Perhaps those that succeed are just the ones that try, and that those that keep seeking perfection just don't understand what a real commitment is. So, the converse is that if you just lay down a commitment, you're just begging for a much harder crash further down the road.

And I don't know, nor is it important in my life right now. Still curious.

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[doc-quixote.livejournal.com]

After you get married, one of two things can happen: You can get divorced, or someone dies. Either way, it's a losing proposition.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

There is a beautiful scene in one of Vonnegut's books in which a perfectly matched couple faces an instant where one is about to plunge to their death - and the other calmly takes a small step to join them.