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[vicarz]

I have a friend at work that I counsel, in part because her social and office-political skills are so poor. I know someone else who is perhaps just as poor socially, but who is actively disliked by many. The difference? My friend is genuinely nice, while the other is a nasty bitch who turns her insecurity into a need to lash out at others and treat them as if they were a lower life-form than herself. It's very obvious, though she has the saving grace of rimming anyone above her like mad.

So, if you are nice, social skills are not so important. Who you are will shine through any learned behavior, and over time people will recognize who and what you are over how polished you make your presentation. I hope.

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[kibean16.livejournal.com]

I hope, you hope, we all hope.

-Kiki

[eac.livejournal.com]

And for those of us who are not genuinely nice?

(The can of worms opened by your last post, btw, are very interesting but I'm too tired to play...)

[djpsyche.livejournal.com]

I thought "nice" meant by definition you had social skills.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Absolutely not. People say horrible things with no poor intentions. People with social skills may be mistaken for nice, and that's a shame.

[wabmart.livejournal.com]

So you're saying that the poor social skills have nothing to do with it -- I'm just a bad person. Is that it?

:P