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[vicarz]

Today I am more than a little weary of the term "gay" being used as a negative adjective. It's tired, old, hurtful or at least inconsiderate, and unimaginative. I'm hitting the point where I more than a little sick of shrugging off "that's gay," "so gay," "gay!" Throw in a bunch of straight guys mocking one another with homoerotic allusions about each other...ugh. I'm hitting it in droves at work, on the internet duh, and in multiple social groups. Did someone announce it was ok to rag on fags again and forget to cc me the memo? The sheer volume is making it prickle my otherwise thick skin.

When I haul off and nail someone, understand it was the straw that broke the fag's back. Come to think of it, I should run off and fuck a guy just for further justification. I'm not a very convincing fag as of late. I worked long and hard to earn this title...

Last night I fell asleep while reading "Freakonomics." I did exactly what I wanted to do, had some fruit slices and read a book. This AM I finished my book, and installed two IKEA light fixtures. I no longer have a crappy flourescent light in the kitchen - now I have IKEA track-like lighting spotlights in the kitchen...but the GLIMT didn't work out so well in the dining room. I can't figure out how to shorten the wire, and it hangs at my head level with its shortest adjustment. Worse, it doesn't work with the dimmer switch, so out it goes. Now I just want to talk about lighting...which is pretty gay.

I thought about doing more with the LJ, but now I'm just using it for some sort of talk-to-myself masturbation. Affirmation. I have over 150 people on my firends list, so affirmation is pretty easy to get. Someone will always find my picture pretty, but that doesn't make me attractive. More people taking off their clothes on the internet need to learn that. A lot of people finding you "hot" is nothing like the ratio of people that find you hot - more importantly the ratio of people who find you hot when your tits aren't hanging out. Oh, and affirmation for the things you write? It takes 10 seconds to read and respond to a post that you bump into. If you feel that presenting one side of an argument to your internet friends and getting supportive feedback means a thing, you really need a perspective jolt. Can I get an amen!?

Comments

[greekphilosophy.livejournal.com]

I had your experience - the reference of "suck" was always referring to in a generic sense and was an equal opportunity insult connoting subservience.

I think that the original poster has a good point though, and one that I've occasionally considered. Is it WORSE for a guy to tell another guy that he "sucks" because it connotes gayness AND subservience?

Either way, I try to avoid the phrase, just because I'm officially trying to be a nice person.

As for "that/it's/you're so gay" - I quit an online game because all of the idiots who got on to it would use gay or fag as a negative adjective. I played it for probably six months, reporting people to the game repeatedly for using derogatory language like that. Obviously, since I quit, it was a losing battle.

I think that I was having to confront the fact that I live in a really insulated bubble in my life. I am at a law school where someone could find themselves in a world of trouble for making a derogatory remark like that, even in passing. I have only friends who wouldn't DREAM of saying something as un-PC as "that's so gay" unles...ya know...it was gay.

I happen to like my little bubble. It isn't an ivory tower, exactly. Because I'm eventually going to end up in a workplace that is equally tolerant (or heads will roll). It's more of my own personally constructed rainbow tower.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Good luck on maintaining that bubble after law school. One of the last bastions of discrimination is the field of law, or so I've heard.

[greekphilosophy.livejournal.com]

I think I ought to be able to remain inside my bubble after school. It may get smaller and harder to maintain, but I think I can do it.

Mainly because I'm going into public interest work. :)