How to Have a Happy Relationship
Feb. 13th, 2009 06:28 amaka Relationship Ideas That Should Be Obvious But Aren't.
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( My edits - want the full cute story, see the original post. )
If there are any danger signals about me in the above, it would have to be that I hear I can be a dick. I say some pretty inconsiderate things about others, and have issues with being judgmental. It's something I continue to work on, but yeah...flaw. I often wonder if I'd like myself if I met my time-traveling doppelganger. Well, the answer to that question is much easier than I realized...respect everyone and make everyone feel as if they are valued, and yes...you'll like you. Try to be that world in which everyone, within reason, is accepted for who they are and what they do. Let people be a little bit of a dick - you don't know how their day was or how they see the situation (without being a doormat or allowing egregiously bad behavior). If you have problems with people, deal with the behavior in question - not the person's character. ie calling someone a dick is a world apart from saying they are a dick. So, yeah. Don't be a dick, Jose.
For me not being a dick seems to involve changing how I react inside, because the route from brain to mouth is without gates.
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( My edits - want the full cute story, see the original post. )
If there are any danger signals about me in the above, it would have to be that I hear I can be a dick. I say some pretty inconsiderate things about others, and have issues with being judgmental. It's something I continue to work on, but yeah...flaw. I often wonder if I'd like myself if I met my time-traveling doppelganger. Well, the answer to that question is much easier than I realized...respect everyone and make everyone feel as if they are valued, and yes...you'll like you. Try to be that world in which everyone, within reason, is accepted for who they are and what they do. Let people be a little bit of a dick - you don't know how their day was or how they see the situation (without being a doormat or allowing egregiously bad behavior). If you have problems with people, deal with the behavior in question - not the person's character. ie calling someone a dick is a world apart from saying they are a dick. So, yeah. Don't be a dick, Jose.
For me not being a dick seems to involve changing how I react inside, because the route from brain to mouth is without gates.