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[vicarz]

[Poll #1640629]

I was thinking about a radio blurb I heard about blizzard babies vs. testosterone levels in males increasing on victories from fights to elections. Increased testosterone leads to more sexing they say. I was thinking of drinking and sex - miserable I can see drink as a numb-the-pain, happy drink is more happy. However, sad sex is not likely, but happy is definitely more sex is more happy. Me words no big use.

Comments

[djpsyche.livejournal.com]

I think sex-when-sad is probably more what single people do. I'm feeling down in the dumps, so I'll go try to pull someone for a one-night-stand to prove that I'm attractive and worthwhile.
Um, not me me of course.

Nowadays, I drink to forget about werk, I sex when it can be fitted into the schedule :-/

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Yeah real life, jobs, and bills are why people "stop having sex after HS/college." When hanging out is no longer your full time job...

[peregrin8.livejournal.com]

Not getting to have sex is probably WHY i am sad (in the hypothetical scenario).

I haven't ever really done the anonymous one-night-stand thing, myself. "Having sex" for me means that there's someone I really like really nearby, so it's hard to stay sad.

In short: YAY SEX.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I concur with the relationship. I don't with the one night stand, but for me it's a case of the consequences are too potential to really do that (even were that ok under my relationships status, which it aint).

[joanarkham.livejournal.com]

I have been married for 15 years and have sex when I'm able to not fall asleep on the couch at 8PM.

YMMV

[vicar.livejournal.com]

This is coming up a lot - I should have made it a button!

[feistydiva.livejournal.com]

I am less likely to want sex when I am tired/stressed/angry, so the top answer is probably the most appropriate.

[panthergirl.livejournal.com]

Sex is a fabulous stress relief.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_blackjack_/]

Since I can't get sex at the liquor store, I fail to see the parallel.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

You're doing it wrong!

[jennytheonly.livejournal.com]

Um, I like to have sex just about whenever my partner is willing.

Seriously though, sex when you're happy is awesome, and sex when you're not happy makes you feel better, even if it's just for a little while.

[novaya-zemlya.livejournal.com]

I concur with the group here. Sex is definitely a stress reliever and picker upper. I'm a social drinker, so the thought of drinking to assuage any angst is alien to me. (Tried it once or twice during some angst-ridden parts of my 20s and found it to be too much damn work. I need people to bounce off of if I'm drinking).

But what about a button for naps and masturbation? Those two have kept me from going berserk for years.

[fitfool.livejournal.com]

I've met a few people over the years who said they had sex as a way of making themselves feeling better whenever they were sad/depressed. One woman said it made her feel attractive and wanted (even if just for a few hours). And one man said he thought he just liked the happy and content hormones he felt after having sex. (though he was often left dealing with resulting problems from the women wanting something more than a one-night stand)

[vicar.livejournal.com]

He may have suffered a problem of lack of full disclosure...expectations should be set in advance, and everyone should be following "the camping rule."

[fitfool.livejournal.com]

In some cases, there was definitely a lack of full disclosure. And in some cases, the other party didn't really believe he meant it. And in still others, the expectations were clear and understood -- but then the other party changed their mind and wanted more.

What's the camping rule?

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Camping rule (quoted often by Dan Savage referring to how to date when there is a large age difference): Always leave (it) in as good or better conditions than when you found (it).

[fitfool.livejournal.com]

I like that rule! Seems like it would a good rule for any time you're dating though...not just for large age differences.

[alumiere.livejournal.com]

If this were a quiz where I could click multiple buttons, I'd have hit 1, 2, & 3.

Sex when I'm happy is a good thing, sometimes when I'm sad or angry it makes things better, and sometimes when I'm sick or feeling unattractive I want it most of all. But there's also the control part of sex that you totally missed here; my own control and the power I give to and get from my partner(s) is part of it too, and often that need has nothing to do with happy or sad or angry for me.

I forget how unusual my attitudes are, and how fucked up my sexual history must seem to most people until I write it down... but I wouldn't change much of the base personality, and I'm satisfied with being me.