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Jun. 9th, 2003 03:38 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
vicarzA piece of advice for social ladder climbers: quit. Just stop it.
I’m currently listening to two managers talk about a woman in our office who trashes everyone. They are noting her many problems with many people, and how her scooting around and complaining behind people’s back is so immature compared to addressing issues like an adult. She’s trying to gain status by attacking people, instead of actually doing something about her situation. I’ve seen this so many times that I’ve come to recognize the behavior as a sad pattern.
If people are going to like or respect you, it’s going to be based on something about you. Something you do, something you know, something about you will or will not make people like you or your work. If all you can do is tear stuff down, you’re just showing that you can’t build anything.
Attacking someone, making fun, criticizing…any of those things in an effort to elevate yourself WILL fail. It is possible to drag someone down or hurt them, but it never elevates the accuser to do so, and more often than not drags them down as well. If it’s done multiple times, it is very obvious what is going on, and the accuser looks like dirt.
I’m currently listening to two managers talk about a woman in our office who trashes everyone. They are noting her many problems with many people, and how her scooting around and complaining behind people’s back is so immature compared to addressing issues like an adult. She’s trying to gain status by attacking people, instead of actually doing something about her situation. I’ve seen this so many times that I’ve come to recognize the behavior as a sad pattern.
If people are going to like or respect you, it’s going to be based on something about you. Something you do, something you know, something about you will or will not make people like you or your work. If all you can do is tear stuff down, you’re just showing that you can’t build anything.
Attacking someone, making fun, criticizing…any of those things in an effort to elevate yourself WILL fail. It is possible to drag someone down or hurt them, but it never elevates the accuser to do so, and more often than not drags them down as well. If it’s done multiple times, it is very obvious what is going on, and the accuser looks like dirt.
