You beam confidence, which works wonders. When you don't care about them, people re-evaluate your "rank."
I completely agree that people, including me, have an idea of what they think they want but may well not know what they want (or should want, what is good for them etc.).
I am 100% into that covet what you know issue - I fight it. Give me a meh coworker and I think he or she is amazing, though if I met them in a club I'd not necessarily notice them as much. The more you see someone, the more strengths AND weaknesses are obvious. Offices are full of not-hots, so being plain at work is smoking hot. That, and I like quoting SotL.
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Date: 2008-05-20 03:46 pm (UTC)I completely agree that people, including me, have an idea of what they think they want but may well not know what they want (or should want, what is good for them etc.).
I am 100% into that covet what you know issue - I fight it. Give me a meh coworker and I think he or she is amazing, though if I met them in a club I'd not necessarily notice them as much. The more you see someone, the more strengths AND weaknesses are obvious. Offices are full of not-hots, so being plain at work is smoking hot. That, and I like quoting SotL.