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[vicarz]

Yesterday a friend posted a cute not-quite-a-meme: Name the most romantic couple that pops into your mind. My answer was that they all broke up. Sad but true, but not true. So I had dinner with friends last night who are very much coupled and appear to be staying that way. They're also absolutely amazing friends, who inexplicably listen to me. One thing I'm uncompromising on, appropriately, is unconditional love. Everyone has their flaws, and rather than love someone and want to beat the worst out of them, I'm more in the school of wanting even the bad parts to be appreciated on some level (does that explain a lot of my psycho posts?) It's not that you should stop trying to improve or that your friends should hold back if you deserve a smackdown, but for the negative things that you can share or bond on - it brings a real relationship to a higher, more honest, level. I think. I'm hardly the one to judge relationships. Oi. In any case, I think I get that from a select few of my friends, and my god that is important to me. Thanks ya big lugz.

So I do know a couple or two that are inspiring in terms of how long the relationship has gone on, how strong it appears, how genuine it is, how healthy it is for each partner growing individually and as the unit...it's just when I first address the subject the first thing that comes to mind is disaster, and there are a lot of sad things going on right now. Still, they're not, and I should keep a more positive eye on the things that are going right than just adding to the list of what idiotic things I need to not repeat in the future. Isn't seeking the right thing more rewarding than avoiding the wrong?

Love my friends even if I don't understand why they put up with me all the time.

...not that the sexing wouldn't be nice...
Sexing? So, you just make your own verb?
Well yes, adding an -ing makes for some fun verbs.
I see. Well, I think that one might be taken. When in comes to animal care, sexing refers to determining what gender they are. Particularly the young.
Well, yes, I suppose, or perhaps I'm just very thorough!
That would not surprise me one bit...

Comments

[samaritan1975.livejournal.com]

Alternatively, 'get your sex on' might work. But I actually like 'sexing' more. :D

[have-inner-lady.livejournal.com]

Oh please: Who isn't sexing everyone else (Webster's definition)? We can't even be online without being asked our gender.

Isn't seeking the right thing more rewarding than avoiding the wrong?

I don't know. If you're avoiding what you know doesn't work, and you know you're doing so, and you know why, I imagine there's a certain self-honor and satisfaction in that. Contrarily, if you think you know what would work, but focus on the absence of it in your life ("seeking"), that doesn't sound very satisfying.

You seem to have a lot of insight for yourself. It could be that where you are now (mentally) is actually a pretty good place to be for this moment.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Insight is one thing, constantly observing flaws and referring to yourself in the third person while trying to "heal thyself" gets tired.

[have-inner-lady.livejournal.com]

Ooooh, now I understand better. Yes, at some point you do have to move from "recovering" to "recovered." There does need to be an end.

[judgefudge.livejournal.com]

what, Karen and I are chopped liver? :)

Sausage

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Where is the (unconditional) love!?

Re: Sausage

[kelowna.livejournal.com]

You'll see it when he throws Baco De Mayo. Anyone woman who can love a man who does that is all about the unconditional ;)

*ducks and runs*

[cweaselle.livejournal.com]

I constantly tell people that if you look for the bad you're more likely to find it. If you look for the good you are more likely to find that. I agree that no matter how good a person is they still have bad things. I think that the biggest thing is like you said to keep trying to do better things.

[djpsyche.livejournal.com]

Interesting question. When faced with trying to pick a "superlative" couple, I of course think of the ones who have been together for a long time and are rock solid. But those couples generally aren't "romantic". They don't kiss and cuddle and coo over each other -- those behaviours are mainly reserved for newer couples, who are not going to make the top of a "superlative" list because they haven't been around long enough to ensure they won't split up next week, thereby proving your judgement worthless. That's probably why all the "romantic" couples you thought of have now broken up. Do I know a couple who are both "solid" and "romantic"? That's a pretty tall order!