IMPULSE

[vicarz]

I just heard an ad for a dietary supplement to make you 'frisky.' Ok...impulse for women (sounds like fake herbal crap) and viagra for men. I don't get it - if you happen to lack sexual desire, why create it? Do you try and make yourself hungry? Do you make yourself tired? Why create a desire!? "What's wrong with me - I don't want to fuck my husband!? I better take drugs..."

Sometimes I get frustrated that while you can flirt with 20 people, if you actually do anything with any of them 19 disappear. I do the same thing, but I live by the double-standard! I'm also finding the more friends you spend time with, the more friends you're bound to have that hate each other. Neato!

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maybe TMI but what the heck

[joanarkham.livejournal.com]

When I was on Depo, I had no sex drive at all. And yes, I did miss it! If (when?) my hormones ever get out of whack, you better believe I'm going to do something about it.

I mean, not supplements advertised on the radio, but something...

Re: maybe TMI but what the heck

[vicar.livejournal.com]

It just reeks, to me - a frequent lesbian and angry feminist listener, too much like trying to pacify people who are in unsatisfying relationships with drugs instead of moving out. Like, well he uses no foreplay and then rolls over like he's done something dirty, perhaps I need something to make me more excited by this!

So, I'll have to listen to lesbians tempered with a bit of Lori!

Re: maybe TMI but what the heck

[ashbet]

I see both sides of the issue . . . I've been in crappy relationships where I have no libido because I don't like/respect/desire the person I'm with . . .

. . . but I also have seriously whacked hormones, and go through periods where I have NO sexual desire at all, even though I have a wonderful relationship and a *very* satisfying sex life. My problem doesn't tend to be inability to *enjoy* sex . . . it's, quite literally, that I don't *desire* sex . . . but once we get started, everything is fine.

My strategy has tended to be (*looks around furtively to see if my sweetie is reading, because it'd be easy to take this wrong*) to simply talk myself into it, and schedule mental 'sex nights' where I'm going to initiate sex whether I feel like it or not . . . the good news is that this *works*, as long as I consciously remind myself that I should do it, we both have a wonderful time.

I know this probably sounds a little manipulative, but trust me, that isn't the case . . . having low libido SUCKS, because it's really easy to blame yourself about it -- mine is fairly obviously hormone-related because it ebbs and flows depending on my health/medication, but I can certainly see someone in an otherwise-good relationship wanting to try something like this in order to have an enjoyable sex life.

But yeah . . . I'm a very touchy/feely/sensual/sexual/naughty/flirtatious/playful person . . . and I have a *great* and very satisfying sex life . . . but a lot of the time, I *don't* have a normal level of desire/lust, and I miss it :(

-- Andi

Re: maybe TMI but what the heck

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Mine is stress related. While I know sex is a great stress reliever, when my life is stressful my sex drive is GONE. When relaxed and carefree...mmm...who needs the gym!?

Re: maybe TMI but what the heck

[ashbet]

Heh, I wonder how I'd be able to *tell* if mine was stress-related . . . I've been so damn stressed lately that it's been a constant low-grade irritation . . . I joked to Kyle last night that I was going to try to make a pearl around it!

(Er, oyster + irritating piece of grit = pearl, that actually wasn't intended to be as sick as it came out now that I'm looking at it in black-and-white, LOL!)

-- Andi (who was talking about STRESS, and not any form of genitalia, but good LORD am I capable of putting my foot in my mouth when I'm feverish and delirious!! *grin*)

Re: maybe TMI but what the heck

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I won't even bring the up the term pearl necklace, no not me...

Frisky

[delappidation.livejournal.com]

Ironically, I was watching infomercials and war at 3am and saw an ad for a JuiceMan2000 or something like that. I swear an older asian man said "Itah mademe aFlisky" and then he beamed a smile. I laughed out loud. The power of juice....wash that supplement down with juice, who knows what could happen?

[oontzgrrl.livejournal.com]

Now while typically I would never want more of a sex drive, because it is already too strong, I remember being on the pill and having zero drive. I mean to the point where I couldn't even fake an interest in it for my boyfriend. Were I single at the time, that would have rocked. But sexual intimacy is a wonderful thing with the right person. If you're in a relationship it can help make you feel closer to that person, not too mention that it just feels really nice. If you totally lack sexual desire it often is a HUGE cause of stress, because you *want* to be intimate with your lover but your body is holding you back. This is, of course, different from when your body is trying to send you hints that the relationship is over. But I dunno. I can tell the difference.