I had your experience - the reference of "suck" was always referring to in a generic sense and was an equal opportunity insult connoting subservience.
I think that the original poster has a good point though, and one that I've occasionally considered. Is it WORSE for a guy to tell another guy that he "sucks" because it connotes gayness AND subservience?
Either way, I try to avoid the phrase, just because I'm officially trying to be a nice person.
As for "that/it's/you're so gay" - I quit an online game because all of the idiots who got on to it would use gay or fag as a negative adjective. I played it for probably six months, reporting people to the game repeatedly for using derogatory language like that. Obviously, since I quit, it was a losing battle.
I think that I was having to confront the fact that I live in a really insulated bubble in my life. I am at a law school where someone could find themselves in a world of trouble for making a derogatory remark like that, even in passing. I have only friends who wouldn't DREAM of saying something as un-PC as "that's so gay" unles...ya know...it was gay.
I happen to like my little bubble. It isn't an ivory tower, exactly. Because I'm eventually going to end up in a workplace that is equally tolerant (or heads will roll). It's more of my own personally constructed rainbow tower.
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Date: 2005-08-08 02:24 pm (UTC)I think that the original poster has a good point though, and one that I've occasionally considered. Is it WORSE for a guy to tell another guy that he "sucks" because it connotes gayness AND subservience?
Either way, I try to avoid the phrase, just because I'm officially trying to be a nice person.
As for "that/it's/you're so gay" - I quit an online game because all of the idiots who got on to it would use gay or fag as a negative adjective. I played it for probably six months, reporting people to the game repeatedly for using derogatory language like that. Obviously, since I quit, it was a losing battle.
I think that I was having to confront the fact that I live in a really insulated bubble in my life. I am at a law school where someone could find themselves in a world of trouble for making a derogatory remark like that, even in passing. I have only friends who wouldn't DREAM of saying something as un-PC as "that's so gay" unles...ya know...it was gay.
I happen to like my little bubble. It isn't an ivory tower, exactly. Because I'm eventually going to end up in a workplace that is equally tolerant (or heads will roll). It's more of my own personally constructed rainbow tower.