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[vicarz]

If you have any respect for me, or wish to have any respect for me in the future, I ask you not to read the following.


So today I walked to the metro with...I always forget her name, but um...the hot chick next door. For the record, a few friends have seen her and agree with my terminology.

Today our conversation was odd - she started talking about my gf, and I quickly noted I had no such thing though many of my friends are female. She laughed because most of her friends are male. She looked at me and said "Well I see you're keeping up with your workouts." I noted the same from her. We ran on about the gym, eating like pigs, drinking like lushes, and how either of us could be 'perfect' but we'd much rather have fun! Food and booze is fun! Give me my carbs!

But this is where it gets shallow. We were talking about gym, career, and dating how they just don't mix well. She noted that for someone who works out as much as I seem to, that I don't date fit people. I laughed my ass off - nothing like hearing people trash your ex's. I did stoop to say that it was almost a relief to be single so my friends would stop confiding in me that it was really obvious that I was dating 'beneath me.' What suprised me was that she talked about how she does the same thing.

She's a gym nut, but her last men have been...not impressive. She...well she talked about sex and we quickly agreed that stamina matters. A lot. Body matters, a lot. Having a career matters, at least not being completely without direction or swamped in debt. Doing something besides watching tv - mandatory. Just to be totally cliche, she hit the size issue on the way out the door. Heh, everyone's a size queen! Well no, I understand that if it's just a finger of a prick that it's kinda hard to get into. Genetics are so weird.

That girl and I need to sit around drinking and talking about the most shallow things in the world. It sounds like we have more silly things in common than I realized - though only silly things. She's totally hot, but in no way dating material (not for me). She's too career, too material, too motivated - I mean I'm sure she's fun and all, but my roots are still slacker. I wouldn't going to notice her $800 dress, she _does_ notice the pants from target. I'm into the body of a jock, and the mentality of a hippie art fag. Not a common combination.

I will say this about 'us' athletic people: our faces do not age well.

This post is 100% pointless. Well, it does make me sound petty - but I have that side, and if people that read this want to hate me for that oh well. I have much mroe interesting reasons to be hated.

Comments

dude.

[kernelpanic.livejournal.com]

did you _AT LEAST_ get her phone number? sheesh.

Re: dude.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Nope.
I'm not dating material for her, I think. Dunno.
I don't think she's dating material for me.
She's my neighbor.
I did casually say we should grab a beer at some point - it was vague and she didn't follow it up so I left it that way.

If I were interested that way, and if it were a # grabbing situation...I probably wouldn't. I'm a total wuss - and as long as I don't try, I can feel like I'm in her league. If I try and fail, bleah.

Re: dude.

[underfiend.livejournal.com]

Do her like Dew.

Why are you making excuses? What are you afraid of, or insecure about? It seems like you could have something if you took the time to get to know each other. Who knows? I'm glad you're "going out for a beer" some time at the least.

Sheesh, Jose.

[mercurialgirl.livejournal.com]

Humans, in general, tend to be initially attracted to symmetry. Saying otherwise is teh silly.
The other stuff, eh, whatever. Too much dick is way worse than not enough, and while yeah, it's nice for people to be secure, it's not always a priority. Knowing what you want in another person is, though, so you shouldn't be too hard on yourself.

[cweaselle.livejournal.com]

I still love you. I don't care if you're a weirdo.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

You love me, and I you, because I am a weirdo.

[cweaselle.livejournal.com]

Maybe. That could be it. But that's why you love.

[ericrowe.livejournal.com]

Bodyshaping should be a function-driven endeavor. If identical twins were to both pursue careers as olympic-level athletes, one in swimming, the other in bicycling, their bodies would look completely different, although each could be said to be in peak condition. 'Get in shape' is therefore shown to be an incomplete sentence - unless we know what objective(s) we wish to pursue, it's all just random motion.

When we shape our bodies for one set of activities - e.g. boxing, powerlifting, aerobic dance - we typically do so with the tangential hope that prospective partners will be drawn to our well-crafted physique. It's kind of a bait-and-switch routine though, since there is nothing inherent to the training for a particular sport that directly equals sexual prowess for the practitioner. You might increase flexibility, or stamina, or strength, but without the complementary mental and emotional traits, you're still talking big disappointment in the sack.

It makes me think of car enthusiasts. You know, those guys who lovingly restore and polish their '28 Rolls-Kinardly or whatever, then only take them out to big carshows, where they spend the whole weekend talking only to other R-K owers. I get a similar feeling when I look at all the single yuppies out looking to score with other single yuppies - it isn't even about the sex, it's about propagation of a particular cultural stance. The body isn't valuable as a body, but as a display of committment to the paradigm.

Good call writing this one off, old chum. Doesn't sound like a good bargain to me...

[vicar.livejournal.com]

I like your points in general - it is funny how we still look for smoeone that looks like they can catch meat / feed babies in this age and locatin where survival is not a question.

Well I have to disagree on one point - boxing has made me a far better athlete in the arena of um...stuff. Stamina is a wonderful thing, muscle control skill transfers, as does tolerance for pain. I don't know that I'd call it bait and switch.

On the other hand, I engage in flagrantly incongruent workouts - strength training (slow and big) and boxing (quick and long). I think I've just admitted I like working out, even if I am engaged in things I really don't have goals in. I'm not going to fight in the ring, nor lift in the olympics, nor pose on the stage in a banana hammock.

She's a great catch for someone, but materialism just isn't me. Somewhere there is a fit hippie with high intelligence, a love of gab, and a tendency towards the center. Er...

[ericrowe.livejournal.com]

It's not really a disagreement. Boxing has made you stronger and more flexible, but it is only an advantage because your body is driven by your mental/emotional matrix. Take that away, and you're left with a robot - fun for a few minutes maybe, but people who can only relate to robots kinda creep me out, frankly...

[mpeace.livejournal.com]

Somewhere there is a fit hippie with high intelligence, a love of gab, and a tendency towards the center.

Aye. I married him.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Bastard! Er...he got a sister?

[mpeace.livejournal.com]

Newp, only child. But I don't mind if you occassionally drool on him and feel his arms up a bit while I gloat. ;)

[desiringmachine.livejournal.com]

You call it shallow, and doubtless some other people would too, but I think it's just honest. Of course attractiveness matters in a relationship where you're having sex! Biology takes centuries to change. Evolution is slow.