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Sep. 10th, 2015 05:38 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
vicarzRandom thought:
Shouldn't I engage in a more social sport, or push to parlay my sport of strength training into something more socially positive and interactive?
Yesterday this was my thought process as a good deadlift day made me want to die. Well not die - the gym is good and I have bad, bad mood worlds without endorphins regularly pumped into me. But I feel social while I'm not talking to anyone - I mean I talk in passing and recognize a few folks in my regular gyms, but it's not like those interactions have blossomed into actual friendships.
Come to think of it that was the big disappointment from boxing - I hoped to branch out into other social circles and it failed. I always seemed to get along, and a few happy hours and parties were ok...but it never spawned any friendships. To this day my friendships are based on nightclubs that no longer exist and social media.
In lifting a lot of us are in there doing our own thing, competing with one another, but not interacting other than seeing each other do well or suck and not saying anything about it. I've never made friends with a spotter or spottee.
There's always crossfit I suppose. I'm sure some schools do not do it all wrong, I feel like I'm a team player, and I do some fairly decent lifts.
I'd say running is the same thing - you can do it on your own and a lot of people do, but there are also a lot of running clubs I see meeting in the area.
Random - the more ink you have buried in your skin, the more likely you are to run around in tiny clothes.
Shouldn't I engage in a more social sport, or push to parlay my sport of strength training into something more socially positive and interactive?
Yesterday this was my thought process as a good deadlift day made me want to die. Well not die - the gym is good and I have bad, bad mood worlds without endorphins regularly pumped into me. But I feel social while I'm not talking to anyone - I mean I talk in passing and recognize a few folks in my regular gyms, but it's not like those interactions have blossomed into actual friendships.
Come to think of it that was the big disappointment from boxing - I hoped to branch out into other social circles and it failed. I always seemed to get along, and a few happy hours and parties were ok...but it never spawned any friendships. To this day my friendships are based on nightclubs that no longer exist and social media.
In lifting a lot of us are in there doing our own thing, competing with one another, but not interacting other than seeing each other do well or suck and not saying anything about it. I've never made friends with a spotter or spottee.
There's always crossfit I suppose. I'm sure some schools do not do it all wrong, I feel like I'm a team player, and I do some fairly decent lifts.
I'd say running is the same thing - you can do it on your own and a lot of people do, but there are also a lot of running clubs I see meeting in the area.
Random - the more ink you have buried in your skin, the more likely you are to run around in tiny clothes.
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Date: 2015-09-10 12:51 pm (UTC)The secret for me was talking less about myself and listening more. That's how I've learned, from that crowd of people, about D1 coaching, arabic translation for the intel market, what military service members shove up their butts on base(*), life in war torn afghanistan, the recipe for perfect lumpia, and yes, why you should wear heeled shoes.
TL;DR: outgoing often means aggressive listening. Talking is a shield.
Ps. Get the fucking shoes, buttmunch.
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Date: 2015-09-10 12:53 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-09-10 12:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-09-10 01:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-09-10 01:31 pm (UTC)Listening vs. talking...yeah it's also anxiety based. Talking lets you think things up and prepare - listening requires...well someone else talking (this doesn't happen unprovoked, though I've learned to ask questions). How do you get people to start talking vs. walking around with their headphones on?
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Date: 2015-09-10 04:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-09-10 04:35 pm (UTC)I do get along with people and can start conversations - I should probably focus on developing that a tad more.