Friday the 13th

[vicarz]

Well I'm not actually into this holiday but I'm trying to make it a good one (with giant weekend!) for the girl. I'm still feeling about a bit with what is traditional that she expects vs. "ew," but gambled on going traditional for VD.

I hate pressure holidays, especially knowing their easily found fake roots (diamond engagement rings!?), and try not to bug others with them. My old joke was 2/15 is a chocolate holiday, but the cold reality is chocolate is usually doubled in price to drop into an ugly red box - and most sale chocolates are drugstore level crap.

I admit I'm still bitter since Lindt's outlet closed. I have found no substitute, but make do with trader joe's.

VD and sex! I'm on the verge of a new speech that you should not have sex with someone who says they're "clean." How can they say that - have the been tested for all 100 or so types of hpv, blood tested for herpes 1, 2, and I dunno...yeast? I would argue the best answer you can give is to identify tested status and risk factors. In fact that might be your best answer - "I have the following risk factors..." which shows not just (we hope) honesty, but knowledge of how complex the issues really are. I think someone who simply id's as "clean" is more likely to be ignorant - and while they could be "clean," I'd argue their ignorance was a bigger risk factor than someone who knows to monitor for a health issue.

You know though...candy hearts, the sidewalk chalk of the candy world, are still pretty cool. I guess like jelly beans, sugar skulls, and candy corn, they're good and go on sale after holidays.

Comments

[djpsyche.livejournal.com]

I would interpret "clean" as "I have been tested for everything they usually test for, have no symptoms, and have not had unprotected sex since my last test."

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Which would be great except for hsv 1 & 2 (which is not normally done as a blood test) and all the hpv. That's what I would say too, but I greatly would prefer more frank and open discussions of the whole issue. Then again, I'm a little crazy.

[pisicutsa.livejournal.com]

When I fell ill in my early 20s and the doctors had no clue why, I was tested for everything. EVERYTHING. Stuff that they only have in countries I have never been, STD tests for stuff I'd never heard of, etc. etc. (I was going in for bloodwork 3x a week for 2+ months till they finally ID-ed and endocrine issue). As such I could confidently tell the guy I was involved with that I was the safest chick he would EVER sleep with (and ya know, we still used protection since babies were not on the agenda back then). :)

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Nice retort! Ok, so yeah that is kind of setting the bar...