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More whining about nothing:

I’m still tired all the time - it’s creepy. I work for a mere 8 hours, sometimes less, at home at a desk - then I feel tired. My workouts are only isometric and 30-45 minutes (my one gymtime a week is only bench, far, far easier than actual lifting).

I’m getting antsy as I have to VD shop for a girl who actually cares about stuff like that. I’m very out of my element - flowers? Dinner in restaurants with someone who knows their wines? She likes places that have dress codes and actually likes those torturedevices called shirts with collars? I can easily blow $100 for 2 in a nice restaurant in a t-shirt. It’s near the end of January and I actually have to make plans, make commitments, and try to guess what she likes. Balls this sucks! /firstworlddatingproblems

Might as well complain about sex (work, work, work!), lazing about, hearing animal noises, and watching snow from inside. “Why won’t she leave me alone? Sigh…”
(hint - she reads this and we poke at each other, she also knows I'm silly)

I don’t know if I’m more impacted by being sliced up, medicine, or just momentum. Was I that much more productive when I was working all the time - so 30 minutes downtime felt like 4 hours now? Sloth begets sloth? How drunk was I on my steady supply of endorphins?

I am just starting to make and keep social plans with my friends again. Some of this is now sort of…dragging the girlfriend around to meet my friends.

Playing south park’s “stick of truth” now feels like work. Seriously? I’m stuck on trying to throw a fart while not in combat mode. I’m so proud that I just typed that sentence.

I hate VD / gifts giving and getting, and a good example of why just arrived from the office. A coworker whom I like, but don’t really know very well, just insisted on having my addy for sending a get well card. I protested and grudgingly agreed as a stupid card would only annoy me slightly and make her feel better. Only, while working yesterday some ‘edible arrangements’ showed up at my door (note - this was not some poly paid service thing).

It’s disgusting. It’s a bunch of shit I don’t eat wrapped in plastic with plastic shooting off of it - including a balloon. I’ve been pricing VD shit, so I know this was easily $50 if not $100, for something I hate and almost find politically offensive. I asked, but got no answer, as the card identifies it as from the group - when it appears more likely it’s from her. So I don’t know if I thank her (which I did) or send something to the group - if it’s not from them then it’s awkward for everyone. This whole fucking thing is laced with 8 types of awkward in a spider web of sick social graces I lack and loathe.

Can I even salvage the chocolate covered strawberries? It’s probably palmer chocolate and I don’t like strawberries unless destroyed in a blender with ice & rum. I feel awful just throwing the stupid thing out, the worthless thing that I don’t like and cost $50-100. Me, who walks blocks on crutches / wearing a brace to avoid paying $5 for parking.

I’ll grin and bear it and there are worse problems to have, but hey this is my little corner to be dramatic and whine about nothing.

Date: 2015-01-24 02:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djpsyche.livejournal.com
On February 14th, my plan is to hit a lesbian club. None of that hearts-n-flowers bullshit for me!

Date: 2015-01-24 02:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
NICE!

Date: 2015-01-24 02:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mai-neh.livejournal.com
If the gift claims to be from a group, I'd thank the group, even if you have reason to believe the group had nothing to do with it. It's the classy thing to do? I guess.

Around the holidays I receive a lot of caloric gifts from family and friends. If I don't want to eat something sugary/fatty/whatever, I just throw it away while nobody is watching. No guilt, no calories, let it turn to methane in a landfill instead of in my intestines ;-)

As for what to do on VD ... restaurants can be so crowded, and noisy! Would she prefer you cooked a nice meal at home? Are you any good at that? Or maybe you could have a nice meal delivered via Takeout Taxi, and have a dressed up meal at your own dressed up table (white tablecloth) with candles and flowers and music, wine from your own collection. Wouldn't it be cool to wear a tie for a dinner in your own (or her own) place? Privacy, quiet, intimate. All this coming from a guy who hates VD.

Date: 2015-01-24 03:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
Not bad ideas - curiously my lack of cooking practice (skill?) is an issue.

Yeah no, I hate grownup clothes and am uncomfortable in them. By the time I finish a deposition or hearing my neck is red and hurt from the collars. Ick!

Date: 2015-01-24 04:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djpsyche.livejournal.com
Don't throw it away! Regift it!!!

Date: 2015-01-24 04:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
omg it's fucking fruit on a stick. Mellon balls on toothpics, strawberries in "chocolate," and pinaples carved into stars?

Think I could hand it to the homeless?

Date: 2015-01-24 05:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djpsyche.livejournal.com
I meant [livejournal.com profile] mai_neh's strategy generally, not your balls specifically. True, some things do not regift.
I'd eat 'em, though.

Date: 2015-01-24 05:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djpsyche.livejournal.com
Uhh that sounded a lot more wrong than I intended. :)

Date: 2015-01-24 05:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
Yeah I'm running with that...too late now!

If only I could lick 'em first...

Date: 2015-01-24 04:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wantedonvoyage.livejournal.com
I was gonna say someone will eat that if you won't. Isn't there anybody in your building that you like? The super who is shoveling the snow right now?

We have the similar V-Day problem. HCD hates gift shopping, hates strangers' attention on the fact that we are a "they/them", hates fancy, dark restaurants. I remember one disaster where I picked a nice place and we were excruciatingly aware of the fact that we were two dudes, the only two dudes. The "package" (heh) came with "a rose for the lady" which the waiter bore towards the table, looked at us, looked at the rose, put it down and walked away.

Paradoxically he likes GETTING gifts just fine, and I don't actually mind shopping, but... yeah.

Date: 2015-01-24 04:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
Oh you make a good point - we do have a property part-time manager and a part-time maintenance guy.

Eep here I am first-worlding my problems with a pretty girl and not even thinking of that potential awkward. Perhaps here in DC it's less of an issue but wow can I imagine.
Nice package touch! /coy

Me, I like whining so it's a gift for everyone!

Date: 2015-01-24 05:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wantedonvoyage.livejournal.com
Well it is not like anybody was hostile; where we live is pretty progressive... he just hates attention brought to it.

Date: 2015-01-24 04:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] shutterbug.livejournal.com
I'm not a VD person either. I would say just ask her what she would like. Personally, I hate going out on V-Day because everything is more expensive, the nicer restaurants tend to simplify/limit their menus for their convenience, and the whole damn holiday is just too much pressure. But for me, a homecooked meal is always a winner :)

I too hate edible gifts for any holiday period. There was one year that I swear everyone gave me candy and I'm not even a sweet tooth. *sigh* If I can't give the stuff away, it goes in the trash!

As for the tired: You underwent major surgery and your body is healing. Hell yeah, you're tired. The endorphin thing isn't helping for sure, and sometimes when you talk about the brace, it almost seems like low grade depression, which for me looks like "tired." Either way, it's alright. Let your body continue to heal. You are doing a great job of doing things without overdoing things, from what I can see. Having to function in life in a way that isn't typical for you can be exhausting.

Date: 2015-01-24 05:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
See I'm good with candy, but usually people get things worthy of a drugstore with a truck parked in the sun during august.

I feel very first-world problems lamenting I'm not 100% when, again, I could be stuck in bed right now.

Date: 2015-01-24 05:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
That's actually pretty brilliant!

(also I heart the horrible video of people in actual 3rd world countries/situations reading "first world problems" for a camera)

Date: 2015-01-25 04:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] djpsyche.livejournal.com
Right, I've got it. Given your build and your hatred of suits... home cooked meal or home delivered posh meal, served to her by you dressed as Cupid.
How much more Valentine's-appropriate could you get?
Edited Date: 2015-01-25 04:24 pm (UTC)

Date: 2015-01-25 06:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com
You know she read my posts and we're yards beyond where we were! It hadn't occurred to me that the holiday is for us, but I was sort of taking off with it on my own...

Damn she's good.

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