Gay wedding
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vicarzI went to a gay wedding last night, forgot to mention, between a man and a woman. They are Janna's friends, really nice, also grad-librarian-sci educated, kinda cute, live in a cute antique-ish basement we call the hobbit hole, and I like them more after the wedding.
Lazy writing like notes rather than taking the time to compose, again, see a pattern...
Held Fri evening in a winery easily driveable from DC except for the rush-hour traffic factor. Announced in advance as a picnic dress-as-you-like wedding - fucking awesome. I hate hate hate weddings, the dressing, the investment of energy and money, and this just really seemed so friend-friendly that it may be my new model for weddings.
In the invites everyone had a choice of table or picnic; on arrival you had a labeled picnic basket and blanket or a table (only 1 table, how cute). Foods were a free wine tasting, wine, beer, snack foods and sandwhiches on a buffet table, and a table with liquor and mixers I think remained untouched. They had a tent ready but the weather was divine. Music played, a cute mix of old pop and modern alt.
It was so best-things-about-gay. They're librarians so the gay to straight ratio was maybe 50-50 but only because people older than me or under 10 I sort of assume are straight. Ink and fabric fashion was way gay. The ceremony was officiated by a relative, female, who was some unitarian type minister or something (not even wicca, or overtly so as goofy as that can be). They explained very clearly they were completing the ceremony that had been started earlier that day in the county courthouse go fucking you that was nice. Understand before gay marriage was as available as it is in this area, and when I thought that was in my cards, I was thinking we should have a protest union to note though gender-mixed we would forsake the wedding trappings due to the population also barred from such things (perhaps not a great sacrifice from me who doesn't like that stuff anyway, I admit).
The ceremony was adorable - they read each other...a statement, she noting she meant to memorize it and teary, he stating up front he had no intentions of ever trying to memorize it.
Oh books - they were the theme everywhere. Flowers were made from book pages, the labels on things were all recycled card catalog cards, the wedding cake was made with imprinted book pages on the icing. PS the cake was good and I ate too much of it.
They forsought (forsaked? said fuckit with?) a lot of traditions. They did not smack each other's face with cake; save the top of the cake, have a preacher, hide from each other, dress in clothes they never wore before or will again (ok maybe her dress but it wasn't over the top), use a lot of formality, or inconvenience their friends. One thing that made me sad was the unspoken apparent absence of any of his relatives. I've heard mutterings about his family's (India I assume) disapproval of his career choice and possibly wife...stunning to me as she's a brilliant, beautiful, educated, well balanced, and absolutely devoted partner.
Hopefully we all wind up with the best family possible even if we're not born into it.
Lazy writing like notes rather than taking the time to compose, again, see a pattern...
Held Fri evening in a winery easily driveable from DC except for the rush-hour traffic factor. Announced in advance as a picnic dress-as-you-like wedding - fucking awesome. I hate hate hate weddings, the dressing, the investment of energy and money, and this just really seemed so friend-friendly that it may be my new model for weddings.
In the invites everyone had a choice of table or picnic; on arrival you had a labeled picnic basket and blanket or a table (only 1 table, how cute). Foods were a free wine tasting, wine, beer, snack foods and sandwhiches on a buffet table, and a table with liquor and mixers I think remained untouched. They had a tent ready but the weather was divine. Music played, a cute mix of old pop and modern alt.
It was so best-things-about-gay. They're librarians so the gay to straight ratio was maybe 50-50 but only because people older than me or under 10 I sort of assume are straight. Ink and fabric fashion was way gay. The ceremony was officiated by a relative, female, who was some unitarian type minister or something (not even wicca, or overtly so as goofy as that can be). They explained very clearly they were completing the ceremony that had been started earlier that day in the county courthouse go fucking you that was nice. Understand before gay marriage was as available as it is in this area, and when I thought that was in my cards, I was thinking we should have a protest union to note though gender-mixed we would forsake the wedding trappings due to the population also barred from such things (perhaps not a great sacrifice from me who doesn't like that stuff anyway, I admit).
The ceremony was adorable - they read each other...a statement, she noting she meant to memorize it and teary, he stating up front he had no intentions of ever trying to memorize it.
Oh books - they were the theme everywhere. Flowers were made from book pages, the labels on things were all recycled card catalog cards, the wedding cake was made with imprinted book pages on the icing. PS the cake was good and I ate too much of it.
They forsought (forsaked? said fuckit with?) a lot of traditions. They did not smack each other's face with cake; save the top of the cake, have a preacher, hide from each other, dress in clothes they never wore before or will again (ok maybe her dress but it wasn't over the top), use a lot of formality, or inconvenience their friends. One thing that made me sad was the unspoken apparent absence of any of his relatives. I've heard mutterings about his family's (India I assume) disapproval of his career choice and possibly wife...stunning to me as she's a brilliant, beautiful, educated, well balanced, and absolutely devoted partner.
Hopefully we all wind up with the best family possible even if we're not born into it.
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Date: 2014-06-22 04:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-06-22 05:09 pm (UTC)Did you follow the tradition of getting them a present?
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Date: 2014-06-22 08:26 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-06-23 05:07 pm (UTC)confused
Date: 2014-06-22 06:12 pm (UTC)Re: confused
Date: 2014-06-22 08:27 pm (UTC)