I generally prefer friends who are blunt like that; so a lot of my friends can tip over into 'jerk' territory pretty quickly, but at the same time I find it's much easier to deal with them than it is to deal with people who tip too far the opposite direction- for whatever reason- where they don't say enough to highlight the situation. I'm bewildered when I find out that an action was taken for a reason that was never expressed- Especially if by words or actions, I could've helped the true situation that was being acted out for the other person.
Me, I vary between the two- I can be very blunt, but I spend a lot of time wanting to make things comfortable for other people, to be really nice to them, to have compassion and all that. Which is all well and good, compassion is one of my personally most admired qualities in general, but I'd really like to strike that balance of just setting up my thoughts and boundaries, without being a jerk, but being forthright and easily understood.
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Date: 2012-06-09 07:39 pm (UTC)Me, I vary between the two- I can be very blunt, but I spend a lot of time wanting to make things comfortable for other people, to be really nice to them, to have compassion and all that. Which is all well and good, compassion is one of my personally most admired qualities in general, but I'd really like to strike that balance of just setting up my thoughts and boundaries, without being a jerk, but being forthright and easily understood.