Wow, I tend to agree with that idea. I'm not that person, but I admire that person. I would much rather know your triggers than guess.
In the group the Archwarden and I facilitate, we have a safeword ("ouch") which -- by agreement -- means the conversation stops and we regroup, because the person who said it has let us know we're treading dangerously near one of their personal landmines.
By the same token, if the person always expects the other person/people to be the ones who compromise just because he's better at articulating his needs, that can get old. Would he also say "I'll do this for you, but it wouldn't be my choice" or something similar? Or is it just "No"?
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Date: 2012-06-09 04:35 pm (UTC)In the group the Archwarden and I facilitate, we have a safeword ("ouch") which -- by agreement -- means the conversation stops and we regroup, because the person who said it has let us know we're treading dangerously near one of their personal landmines.
By the same token, if the person always expects the other person/people to be the ones who compromise just because he's better at articulating his needs, that can get old. Would he also say "I'll do this for you, but it wouldn't be my choice" or something similar? Or is it just "No"?