(I chuckled multiple times at your comments)
Well, there is a good point that the opportunities are here in DC/Bmore and would again be in a major city. However, as I viewed the grass from the other side of the fence it's likely I'd return to the same patterns and problems.

I should also credit myself and my friends to being less hungry / full of need for affirmation so that relationships rightfully don't take as much energy.