You are more social and gregarious than I am. You socialize (not schmooze) a bit better, and do mix in a wide variety of circles.
But...moving does not throw you out of complacency. Part of what you're grokking is that a number of your friends have become more sedentary; they've married, pair-bonded, shacked-up, or are on the next in their infinite sequence of serial-monogamy. Moving to anew city, especially in a new region and different time zone, will not make you any less likely to button up in a dungeon run.
Trust me. Please. I *could* say that WoW and Skypse became the cor of my social activities in Michigan, but that was only after I had tried and failed to find a connection with most of the people around me. The age difference mattered, but a more pressing issue was the failure to connect, even with the three other gamer/comics/SF geeks. End result: I stayed virtually tethered to my shrinking friend-base (see: marriage, kids, suddenly found Jesus/Cthulhu) and didn't push myself to go out more.
no...there is a difference. I was trying to meet people in a working-class town with a dash of college fuckwads and academics, in a depressed economy, during a recession. You'd be going to major city (right?) with a local underground scene, diverse sexualities and societies, and actual cultural activities available. Oh...but you have these here and have not exploited all those opportunities yet, in either DC or Baltimore, correct?
So the choice to contact, engage, and interact is all on you and the self-delusion is as beneath you as the wussy little "lazy" adjective with which you self-obfuscate. And no, not all "old friends" remain so; some develop different tastes or find they've fallen into a lifestyle that becomes an ever-deeper pit from which they venture not, but the excuses and bleating grow more strident and ridiculous.
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You are more social and gregarious than I am. You socialize (not schmooze) a bit better, and do mix in a wide variety of circles.
But...moving does not throw you out of complacency. Part of what you're grokking is that a number of your friends have become more sedentary; they've married, pair-bonded, shacked-up, or are on the next in their infinite sequence of serial-monogamy. Moving to anew city, especially in a new region and different time zone, will not make you any less likely to button up in a dungeon run.
Trust me. Please. I *could* say that WoW and Skypse became the cor of my social activities in Michigan, but that was only after I had tried and failed to find a connection with most of the people around me. The age difference mattered, but a more pressing issue was the failure to connect, even with the three other gamer/comics/SF geeks. End result: I stayed virtually tethered to my shrinking friend-base (see: marriage, kids, suddenly found Jesus/Cthulhu) and didn't push myself to go out more.
no...there is a difference. I was trying to meet people in a working-class town with a dash of college fuckwads and academics, in a depressed economy, during a recession. You'd be going to major city (right?) with a local underground scene, diverse sexualities and societies, and actual cultural activities available. Oh...but you have these here and have not exploited all those opportunities yet, in either DC or Baltimore, correct?
So the choice to contact, engage, and interact is all on you and the self-delusion is as beneath you as the wussy little "lazy" adjective with which you self-obfuscate. And no, not all "old friends" remain so; some develop different tastes or find they've fallen into a lifestyle that becomes an ever-deeper pit from which they venture not, but the excuses and bleating grow more strident and ridiculous.