see, my dad hadn't dated in 20+ years. he hadn't expected to be dating again later in life - and those websites, while they may seem a lowered expectation arena to you, and I admit that is an angle to take on them - they're a relatively safe place for older adults to meet new people. my dad was lonely and looking for someone, sure - but I dont think by joining these sites he lowered his expectations. they were there as a tool for him to meet new people, and he could have not acted on any of the messages he got. he did go on a few dates that were not so spot-on, and he lucked out in finding the wonderful woman who is my step-mom.
I agree with you in that the gems to desperate people ratio is skewed in the desperate end of the spectrum, but that desperation could be born of not knowing how to date after being married for so long - it's not always the token loser trolling for dates.
it's talking about the idea that you've given up and started trying really hard to meet someone instead of just letting it happen.
but if you're nearing 50 and your home life has fallen apart after a divorce and you just want to meet someone to spend the next 50 years of your life with, wouldn't you rather seek them out actively through as many avenues as possible, vs. just waiting for "fate" or "chance" to bring you together?
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Date: 2008-08-09 09:45 pm (UTC)I agree with you in that the gems to desperate people ratio is skewed in the desperate end of the spectrum, but that desperation could be born of not knowing how to date after being married for so long - it's not always the token loser trolling for dates.
it's talking about the idea that you've given up and started trying really hard to meet someone instead of just letting it happen.
but if you're nearing 50 and your home life has fallen apart after a divorce and you just want to meet someone to spend the next 50 years of your life with, wouldn't you rather seek them out actively through as many avenues as possible, vs. just waiting for "fate" or "chance" to bring you together?