hmmm... and those of us who are in open relationships find the why be together question easily answered - we want to be together and stay together - for any number of reasons
and for us part of the way to do that is to be able to trust our partner(s) to use their own judgement - if t wants to have sex with someone else that's fine - i'm not jealous nor do i find that monogamy works for me (or a lot of other people)
besides - who says that group sex involving both partners is any more enhancing for the couple than each partner sleeping with someone else seperately?
for example when one of us comes back from a date w/ someone else we typically have absolutely fabulous sex
then there's the trust that's required in an open relationship - we always talk about it afterward (not necessarily details but at least in a general way) and it often brings up things we hadn't thought about or discussed before - so in a way that freedom brings us a ton of good stuff
and both of us learn new tricks with other partners both about what is pleasurable for us and what is good for whoever else we've gone out with - since everyone is wired differently and sex which each different partner is so diverse that's a good thing...
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Date: 2008-06-25 05:43 am (UTC)and for us part of the way to do that is to be able to trust our partner(s) to use their own judgement - if t wants to have sex with someone else that's fine - i'm not jealous nor do i find that monogamy works for me (or a lot of other people)
besides - who says that group sex involving both partners is any more enhancing for the couple than each partner sleeping with someone else seperately?
for example when one of us comes back from a date w/ someone else we typically have absolutely fabulous sex
then there's the trust that's required in an open relationship - we always talk about it afterward (not necessarily details but at least in a general way) and it often brings up things we hadn't thought about or discussed before - so in a way that freedom brings us a ton of good stuff
and both of us learn new tricks with other partners both about what is pleasurable for us and what is good for whoever else we've gone out with - since everyone is wired differently and sex which each different partner is so diverse that's a good thing...