Right, but you're speaking of the entire "method".
I was only speaking to the part that it's true that something/one worked for is perceived as more rewarding/valuable. Hell, I think that's just common sense. I don't know if it's disingenuous especially since it's natural.
Really, how often do you find yourself disgusted by someone who is physically attractive but acts like a slut; if they acted with self-respect, instead of the town whore, wouldn't you be more interested in them? It's basically the same idea.
I probably would have been more disgusted about that part when reading about it if I didn't know it to be true and had not witnessed a lot of people knowingly, or unknowingly, playing off the "hard to get" theme. Eh, it's just human psychology, really. As humans, especially children, most of us wanted that cookie (or whatever) more after being told we couldn't have it.
I could write at-lenght about the psychology behind "The Method" because I do find it facinating due to it being so simple yet contraversial due to the obvious manipulation techniques, but I'll save that for another time. What's more, it is very telling about gender psychology and how we tend to interact. I do agree with your final point, however, and I belive "The Game" illustrates how pathetic things can get... but the main character eventually discovers this when he finally meets a women he loves and wants to stay with because she is a challange to him.
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Re: She rubs the lotion on her skin
Date: 2008-05-20 06:07 pm (UTC)I was only speaking to the part that it's true that something/one worked for is perceived as more rewarding/valuable. Hell, I think that's just common sense. I don't know if it's disingenuous especially since it's natural.
Really, how often do you find yourself disgusted by someone who is physically attractive but acts like a slut; if they acted with self-respect, instead of the town whore, wouldn't you be more interested in them? It's basically the same idea.
I probably would have been more disgusted about that part when reading about it if I didn't know it to be true and had not witnessed a lot of people knowingly, or unknowingly, playing off the "hard to get" theme. Eh, it's just human psychology, really. As humans, especially children, most of us wanted that cookie (or whatever) more after being told we couldn't have it.
I could write at-lenght about the psychology behind "The Method" because I do find it facinating due to it being so simple yet contraversial due to the obvious manipulation techniques, but I'll save that for another time. What's more, it is very telling about gender psychology and how we tend to interact. I do agree with your final point, however, and I belive "The Game" illustrates how pathetic things can get... but the main character eventually discovers this when he finally meets a women he loves and wants to stay with because she is a challange to him.