I've had good luck with my friends actually addressing the situations when they came up. One place I've made personal improvement (though still a work in progress) is in actually addressing the friend directly, telling them how I feel before things get huge and blow up. With the friends I've picked, or that survived, this has turned out very well.
Expressing works - at least telling people how you feel. Often they can give you their interpretation of events and you can find the situation manageable somewhere inbetween the 'realities.' Friendships that might have fallen out can be saved this way!
On the other hand - lying and being evasive is just annoying and further proves you have a reason to be mad. Smoothing things over is a good idea, but only when those efforts are genuine and honest.
-- i'm refering to people that are in their THIRTIES. (insert rolling around laughing icon or acronym here)
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timeasmymeasure
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Date: 2004-06-24 10:04 am (UTC)Expressing works - at least telling people how you feel. Often they can give you their interpretation of events and you can find the situation manageable somewhere inbetween the 'realities.' Friendships that might have fallen out can be saved this way!
On the other hand - lying and being evasive is just annoying and further proves you have a reason to be mad. Smoothing things over is a good idea, but only when those efforts are genuine and honest.
-- i'm refering to people that are in their THIRTIES.
(insert rolling around laughing icon or acronym here)