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[vicarz]

This week I've had several girls mention their desire for a big, beefy man (in one case a direct quote, other just with minor phrases like "big strong arms"). The only girls I know that don't seem to want a big beefcake...want other women. Even the women-wanting ones seem to want beefcake men, with the woman standards being more flexible. Does this mean every time I see a woman with a small guy, short or skinny or both, that they have settled?

I have to start paying attention to marketing - not getting any younger, ya know. I've lifted weights for over ten years, and while I am often referred to as 'fit' or 'in shape' I realize I'll never be beefy or big (often meaning tall). Unless I pull a gattaca, I'm stuck at my current height.

So, the logical pursuit is to become more woman-like.

Comments

[kelowna.livejournal.com]

I'll admit it, I am for beefy and tall. I find it an extremely sexual turn on for a man to be bigger and taller than me so that my head fits right under his chin when i'm standing with him. This does not mean that I may find other men visually appealing, I simply won't be turned on in the same way. Understand that I am highly selective to begin with so this is simply one of my required trait.

Just to be honest, and really blunt, the number one turn off a guy could do would be exactly what you are writing right here: "I can't find any women". Then if they decide they like you - you think _they_ are the one who is settling.

--kelowna

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the honesty, but I didn't mean for this to sound like whining per se...more a commentary on recent conversations and my usual negative interpretation. Number of options don't seem to be a problem for me right now, to be blunt.

I am so confident that I enjoy doing the most awful things you can possibly do! Next I'll actively whine that "I can't get laid" thing to really try and look icky. Understand this is LJ land - a place where I will not ever meet potential lovers etc. You make a good point, but hopefully one that is not applicable to me.

Or I'm just kinda high because someone kinda cute just did that turn-around and smile thing to me! I was rated!