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A minor mission
Feb. 22nd, 2016 07:49 amI've said this a few times in recent weeks:
I want to find out how I got better and teach that to other people.
I've had a few times where I got into a work funk. I felt I worked hard, and had received praise from supervisors. However, I was spoiled and had a perspective of "entitlement," as much as that term is over-stereotyped. It applied. I think the bigger issue is that I got angry at work, and it clouded my view of everything. I thought I already knew everything, and took every instruction or request as an attack. If you act like this, some instructions and requests probably are attacks after a while - being mean and hostile all the time eventually gets you reaction in kind.
Somehow over time I got over it. I changed jobs, turned off the negativity, changed my work habits, and became valued by the organization.
I just got a case where an old lazy boss was replaced by one who did her job. In one location, there were 2 employees who both faced discipline for not doing their jobs properly. One shaped up and is now doing fine; the other engaged in EEO, got discipline, got discipline again, sought EEO and engaged in the accommodation process (which is fine, but all indications are she did it only to fight discipline - not to get change or help), and then got fired. I'm defending the Agency against her appeal of her termination. I'm reading her discovery responses and finding she describes regular work interactions as hostile attacks by a web of evil supervisor puppets. She fails to address things like her failing to do her job, the # of times she was caught not being at work at all, and how all her excuses were disproven when checked (she complains of people being out to get her).
I don't know why one person shaped up and the other flailed.
I don't know how I changed my perspective and learned to work harder, not take all requests as personal assaults, and basically succeeded.
I want to figure out what I did, and what the successful reformed employee did, and teach that breakthrough to others. One person said "I grew up," but it can't be that simple. Or I'm screwed in this mission, or I need to develop a plan of several steps and techniques to train others and help them be valuable.
Think of this in stupid things like facebook politics - some people listen and discuss, others share pictures and call disagreement a fight - seemingly being far more concerned with their identity as a liberal/conservative than trying to change other people's minds or the world around them. Why? Why do some people complain online and then not even vote?
If I could unlock the mystery, that would be one hell of a contribution to make to society. I'd like to do this or help others teach that skill, that change, somehow.
I want to find out how I got better and teach that to other people.
I've had a few times where I got into a work funk. I felt I worked hard, and had received praise from supervisors. However, I was spoiled and had a perspective of "entitlement," as much as that term is over-stereotyped. It applied. I think the bigger issue is that I got angry at work, and it clouded my view of everything. I thought I already knew everything, and took every instruction or request as an attack. If you act like this, some instructions and requests probably are attacks after a while - being mean and hostile all the time eventually gets you reaction in kind.
Somehow over time I got over it. I changed jobs, turned off the negativity, changed my work habits, and became valued by the organization.
I just got a case where an old lazy boss was replaced by one who did her job. In one location, there were 2 employees who both faced discipline for not doing their jobs properly. One shaped up and is now doing fine; the other engaged in EEO, got discipline, got discipline again, sought EEO and engaged in the accommodation process (which is fine, but all indications are she did it only to fight discipline - not to get change or help), and then got fired. I'm defending the Agency against her appeal of her termination. I'm reading her discovery responses and finding she describes regular work interactions as hostile attacks by a web of evil supervisor puppets. She fails to address things like her failing to do her job, the # of times she was caught not being at work at all, and how all her excuses were disproven when checked (she complains of people being out to get her).
I don't know why one person shaped up and the other flailed.
I don't know how I changed my perspective and learned to work harder, not take all requests as personal assaults, and basically succeeded.
I want to figure out what I did, and what the successful reformed employee did, and teach that breakthrough to others. One person said "I grew up," but it can't be that simple. Or I'm screwed in this mission, or I need to develop a plan of several steps and techniques to train others and help them be valuable.
Think of this in stupid things like facebook politics - some people listen and discuss, others share pictures and call disagreement a fight - seemingly being far more concerned with their identity as a liberal/conservative than trying to change other people's minds or the world around them. Why? Why do some people complain online and then not even vote?
If I could unlock the mystery, that would be one hell of a contribution to make to society. I'd like to do this or help others teach that skill, that change, somehow.
