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[vicarz]

So I'm going to this wedding thingy, as I'm in school the dates approach faster...as in, I think the wedding is in like 20 minutes or so.

I've only recently started to realize that you bring gifts to weddings, bar mitzfas, house warming parties ... well candles. Something about a new house makes people buy candles.

I want to get Slash and Tracy something weddingish. I have no bloody idea what to get! If I say I word they'll say to do nothing, but I wanna get them something!

Any ideas? I mean, gifts are hard enough, and these are some unique puppies.


Carry on, nothing to see here.

Comments

hmmm...

[telie13.livejournal.com]

well, why not get the wedding invite framed? I did that for someone once and it was much appreciated.

or a nice bottle of champagne and some glasses?

Or a home depot gift card, nothing says congrats like free housewares....

Re: hmmm...

[peregrin8.livejournal.com]

Champagne and cool glasses, I second that one. Or, everyone I've ever given a really nice kitchen knife w/ sharpener to has liked that gift a lot (and thus far, none of them have used them to stab their partner...)

[crossbonesdj.livejournal.com]

You could ask them if they are registered any place...

Well, they are registered, but...

[grymnir.livejournal.com]

They are registered. I don't have the link here (at work) for the subsite their wedding info is on, but maybe Colin can send it this evening? The one thing I will say about their registry is that they are asking for what they need, not what they want.

I mean this from the pov of "we need x to hold up y and z to keep the door closed" not "dahling...we just must have that oh-so-precious 19th century replica of the 17th century footstool to go with our drapes."

So...that said, you are still right, gifts are hard to ascertain. They are registered at target, at least, but I am tempted to gift cert them for "Another Universe" or something similarly frivolous. The family can buy the sheets, towels, and 8pc sets.

Re: Well, they are registered, but...

[vicar.livejournal.com]

i HATE registries. Sigh - gifts are no fun when you buy someone something they tell you to. Still, need based I'm very sympathetic towards. I could just do that small fun gift with a real gift certificate along with it.

Eek - I wonder if the registry is on the invite. I should probably read it, but as it wasn't assigned in torts I might miss it.

[railwaymadness]

Doesn't etiquette allow you a year after the date of the wedding to send a gift?

[joanarkham.livejournal.com]

Technically, you are not suposed to bring a gift, you should send it ahead or sometime after the wedding. Of course, I don't think a rule counts if no one else knows about it.

[vicar.livejournal.com]

Etiquette? Like manners?
a) How would I, a social retard, know that?
b) Why would I care about etiquette?

My latest take on manners and etiquette is they are merely a screen for extremely rude and mean-spirited behavior. Give me a genuinely kind clod any day.

The road to hell is paved with good manners. From my friends I want good intentions. /rant

yep, you're a social retard ;-)

[peregrin8.livejournal.com]

Manners and etiquette are supposed to preclude rude behavior; if they are being used to enable it, they are being used incorrectly.

The idea of not bringing the gift to the wedding is that there may be nowhere to put it, they don't have time to deal with it, and they end up having to lug it home. However, I've been to many weddings where there was a designated gifts table at the reception and some relative was charged with lugging the gifts to the bride&groom's home.

If you don't care about etiquette, why give a gift or even show up? Why are we even helping you? ;-)

Re: hmmm...

[violet-heather.livejournal.com]

I may be superstitious, but you are NEVER supposed to give a friend a knife, unless you want the relationship to be broken. I would also suggest the Home Depot card or how about a gift certificate to a cool restaurant? Like moroccan (if they like ethnic) or even movie gift certificates

Re: hmmm...

[peregrin8.livejournal.com]

hee hee... you may be... ;-)

next time I'll settle for giving them a nice ladder to walk under, and maybe a cute black kitten!

gifts

[lilu22.livejournal.com]

Too many weddings are happening here. You of all persons should look at the gift registry and pick the gift you want to get them. Who here doesn't want stuff he doesn't want? (Well, I think that's most all of us). At any rate, some good suggestions here. I'd like to add a really huge bowl, to make salad in or mix just about anything. Or something related to a beer stein, glasses (although I wonder if that idea will get over done).
Pillows (big, beautiful, decorating kind) those can be great gifts.
OK, I stop now.