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[vicarz]

I've told more than one former crush that they were a former crush - not in so many words. So far each time it seems to have gone over well. We're talking about telling married people with kids here! I'm also tied down, so it's not on the skeevy level (though in my crowds those are often options). It's just fun, especially as I find that they were just as awkward and insecure as I was.

I feel like I"m comfortable in my own skin, but some of that is the realization that I live in a different world. I am either muscular enough or look confident enough without reason that people leave me alone. Or I'm just too old to fuck with for manpoints. Whatever it is, I compare it to life when my friend when from flubby to thin - you go to the same places and see the same people but are treated completely differently. You don't forget, but over time your expectations do change.

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[plumbob78]

I've been fortunate. I haven't noticed people treating me differently because of my changing appearance. Though people do comment on it, of course.

[vicarz]

Well it can be good - it's an interesting experience if nothing else. It does make you think.

[plumbob78]

To be clear, I'm talking specifically about people I knew from before, whereas You may be referring to people in general. That I haven't paid too close attention too, honestly.