...but the high-strung way I get around her I can't really explain with the raw facts.
I puzzle over this, too.
My mother and I do much better at a distance. We have a three-day hang out max before things get non-functional. Two birthdays ago, she visited for a weekend and left town early, that's how bad things were. If I break it down, it's mostly me freaking out over behaviour that doesn't look bad on paper. And her not knowing how to talk to me. All of your posts on facebook about your mom just made you look anal and picky. Clearly they feel different for you, but they don't stand up to reason. We have weird relationships with our moms, based on decades of who-knows-what. All I can suggest is worry less about someone whose life is not yours to live. And do your best to act in a way that you'll feel okay about in the future.
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timeasmymeasure
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Date: 2014-10-19 12:38 pm (UTC)I puzzle over this, too.
My mother and I do much better at a distance. We have a three-day hang out max before things get non-functional. Two birthdays ago, she visited for a weekend and left town early, that's how bad things were. If I break it down, it's mostly me freaking out over behaviour that doesn't look bad on paper. And her not knowing how to talk to me. All of your posts on facebook about your mom just made you look anal and picky. Clearly they feel different for you, but they don't stand up to reason. We have weird relationships with our moms, based on decades of who-knows-what. All I can suggest is worry less about someone whose life is not yours to live. And do your best to act in a way that you'll feel okay about in the future.