Almost five years is a long time. I been there. Unlike you, I have not moved on.
When I say 90% or more I include both 1 and 2, too. Practically speaking, it makes no difference, although people continue to think it does. I have HSV 1 on my genitals, no sign ever of infection up top (or elsewhere). Yes, you can be a carrier and asymptomatic. Also, I believe there is evidence that an active virus can go to sleep forever, which would, again in practical terms, be akin to no longer being infected. If your parents both had cold sores, I don't think you're that special unique snowflake sans herpes. Oh well!
I'd hate to meet someone who never, ever wanted to fuck me condomless because of my herpes. I should put that out there on the first date. Just in case I meet someone who wouldn't... although people's minds change about this. I've seen it with my own interactions. Their initial reaction is fear and disgust. Then they realize they don't know shit. And also like sex, even gross herpetic sex EW EW, at least with me, more than they realize. The lawyer I banged once in May (*so many shudders*) made a huge deal about this, wouldn't penetrate sans condom. But couldn't stay hard long enough to get a condom on. I should have stopped and said, "I won't kiss you without a dental dam, then." (he admitted to having oral herpes, after I told him my status) God, that whole thing was a mistake.
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Date: 2014-09-30 12:35 pm (UTC)When I say 90% or more I include both 1 and 2, too. Practically speaking, it makes no difference, although people continue to think it does. I have HSV 1 on my genitals, no sign ever of infection up top (or elsewhere). Yes, you can be a carrier and asymptomatic. Also, I believe there is evidence that an active virus can go to sleep forever, which would, again in practical terms, be akin to no longer being infected. If your parents both had cold sores, I don't think you're that special unique snowflake sans herpes. Oh well!
I'd hate to meet someone who never, ever wanted to fuck me condomless because of my herpes. I should put that out there on the first date. Just in case I meet someone who wouldn't... although people's minds change about this. I've seen it with my own interactions. Their initial reaction is fear and disgust. Then they realize they don't know shit. And also like sex, even gross herpetic sex EW EW, at least with me, more than they realize. The lawyer I banged once in May (*so many shudders*) made a huge deal about this, wouldn't penetrate sans condom. But couldn't stay hard long enough to get a condom on. I should have stopped and said, "I won't kiss you without a dental dam, then." (he admitted to having oral herpes, after I told him my status) God, that whole thing was a mistake.