My opinion: Don't get married if you think anything will change. You want to get married because you like what you have. Committment is more dependant on knowing yourself through and through, not necessarily the other person; You have to know what you are capable of, what you are willing to accept and not accept in another. You have to remember what's important and what isn't. Sticking to your guns and not compromising does not make a stronger person. That's just simply stubborn. Also, it is what is is, nothing more and nothing less; A towel on the floor should not be read as, he disrepects me and my space and the hard work I put into this house and he doesn't care about my feelings and every DAY I have to repeat myself about the damn towel!! It's just a towel on the floor. Pick it up if you don't want it there. He still Loves you despite the fact that he isn't always mindful of how you feel about a towel on the floor. You get to have him and all his loveable other ways, like how he shares his food with you, and how you can share the same inside jokes and how he brags about you to his friends. Compromise is an exercise in learning your true character. You will find out that being selfless has nothing to do with gestures or material things. You will learn what is truly important to you. Some people think they're looking for the right person. Usually, they're really looking for the right circumstance and hope that the person with those circumstance is also someone they can get along with, which is ok, just be honest with yourself that those circumstances are more important.

Then again I'm divorced, with two munchkims and in a limbo sorta singlehood. I married a student and divorced an attorney. I was engaged to a student with a PTSD disability rating and was left by a student with a PTSD disability rating, a man I still Love. And I've been told honestly by men that "if you didn't have kids..."

In a way, I guess I'm uncompromising as well. The heart and character of a person is not something I will ever compromise, that much I know about myself. If I find that, I can certainly find it in myself to pick up his towel.