vicarz: (Sushi girl)
vicarz ([personal profile] vicarz) wrote2008-08-06 08:34 pm

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4 drinks into it I think there is something I am trying to learn through circumventing well placed defenses. With a few drinks I don't silence the voices, but I do slow them down and bend them to feel things besides anger or rage. It's not bad that I've gone from thinking I knew something to asking questions, but asking questions too often is from the position of someone who has an agenda in mind - questions seek answers, typically from a set of expectations. I'm trying to learn to listen.

[identity profile] kelowna.livejournal.com 2008-08-07 04:13 am (UTC)(link)
And realize that all answers you hear aren't always what you want to hear. If you want to hear what YOU want to hear, talk to yourself. If you want to hear something different, disagreeable, talk to other people and respect that you'll get that. Alternate perspectives are a GOOD thing.

How about just finding humour in everything rather than anger?

EVERYTHING will be all over at some point and you can't take it with you (even kicking and screaming...)

--k

[identity profile] grymnir.livejournal.com 2008-08-07 04:21 am (UTC)(link)
Glad to hear it. A good start. get pictures.

[identity profile] vicar.livejournal.com 2008-08-07 11:01 am (UTC)(link)
Those are not new lessons to me, but good ones of course. Oddly, talking to myself does not give the answers I want to hear - been doing this a LONG time.

And I do find humor in everything - when I'm at my most bitter, I'm still funny as hell. Irony is a very powerful drug.