I hate the whole height-est thought, but a lot of times, it's because the short person doesn't want short kids. However, if you're like me and don't want kids, that kinda makes the whole thing moot.
As far as settling, yes, many people are smart enough to make the best of limited options, but at the same time, I have been taken a little amused by how many people end up with others who are "not their type", and have experienced it happening from both sides. I even told one girl that since I wasn't her height req, it was her loss. My attitude about my "shortness" made her more attracted to me because I didn't really care... but that's a whole nothing thing. Stuff like that happens a lot and I've noticed most people honestly don't have a type or know what they want, though they may have an idea of what they think they'd like. The two can be very different.
Speed dating... oh my g, is that ever a statement of a lot of what's here. Yes, a lot of the women I met at these events went only once where as most of the guys were on their second or third event. It's always funny to see them figure out how they're going to work out the math of more guys showing up than girls, but I think some of these experiences / thoughts I have re: dating are based on the DC lifestyle, which is not to say it doesn't extend to other places, just that I'm sure things are different (from what I've seen in Canada, for instance, where people seem slightly more friendly and less "shallow" over all) in other places.
The marrying thing makes me happy, though, cause in a way I think we're doing more waiting till the time is right, but there are a number of factors in play here- not the least of which is longer life spans and the need to retire later in life.
I'm not sure about the whole covet what you know thing, but it does take time and desire to get away from what you are already acquainted with. Hell, I've met a bunch of cool people lately after just letting my guard down and realizing everyone doesn't need to fit into my scheme of what is an "interesting person".
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I hate the whole height-est thought, but a lot of times, it's because the short person doesn't want short kids. However, if you're like me and don't want kids, that kinda makes the whole thing moot.
As far as settling, yes, many people are smart enough to make the best of limited options, but at the same time, I have been taken a little amused by how many people end up with others who are "not their type", and have experienced it happening from both sides. I even told one girl that since I wasn't her height req, it was her loss. My attitude about my "shortness" made her more attracted to me because I didn't really care... but that's a whole nothing thing. Stuff like that happens a lot and I've noticed most people honestly don't have a type or know what they want, though they may have an idea of what they think they'd like. The two can be very different.
Speed dating... oh my g, is that ever a statement of a lot of what's here. Yes, a lot of the women I met at these events went only once where as most of the guys were on their second or third event. It's always funny to see them figure out how they're going to work out the math of more guys showing up than girls, but I think some of these experiences / thoughts I have re: dating are based on the DC lifestyle, which is not to say it doesn't extend to other places, just that I'm sure things are different (from what I've seen in Canada, for instance, where people seem slightly more friendly and less "shallow" over all) in other places.
The marrying thing makes me happy, though, cause in a way I think we're doing more waiting till the time is right, but there are a number of factors in play here- not the least of which is longer life spans and the need to retire later in life.
I'm not sure about the whole covet what you know thing, but it does take time and desire to get away from what you are already acquainted with. Hell, I've met a bunch of cool people lately after just letting my guard down and realizing everyone doesn't need to fit into my scheme of what is an "interesting person".