Agree that working towards being 'better than I am' is the way to go. One race at a time. Thank you for the link/recommendation.

Side thought, using applied negative goals might make not cheating on a partner dependent on just how tempting that particular cake? Applied positive goals might mean that being able to posit a certain future together makes cheating not worth the risk.

Then again, maybe I'm just imagining the taste of chocolate genoise cake.