i don't like lies. then again, people have a funny way of perceiving. Sometimes they speak off the cuff (unaware that what they're saying is Completely Absurd). One girlfriend told me (during one argument) that she was returning to men. She was tired of women. Well, she talked a lot of shit when she was enraged/defeated (shit, did i say that?)

the truth is, perception is a mind-game. People say or do things to parallel their Sig Other's thought process. Sometimes they'll say shit simply to get your ire. Communication is learned and it's something you constantly need to work on. I'll admit, i still suck at it.

i'm a bit of a "The Notebook" freak (i love that movie) and i'll expand on this one scene a bit... he says, "we fight, but then we make up", and my opinion is that you fight (i say a lot of shit without thinking, oops). So there's the fight. And the relationship happens in the making up. The relationship is what happens after you've hurt each other.

i wish there was more to read on this... the apologizing/sitting on ego/feeling the other's doing the same/making up bit. prevailing culture emphasizes sex after makeups but that's not so effective! not in the longterm!!!