How do you let it go? Um, you don't. Bad answer? Ok, well, you do let it go but it takes AGES. What you learn first is how to quickly recognize when you are engaging in a thought pattern that isn't necessarily reflective of you and your values. You win with logic in the short term - and only in the long term do you work through the feelings. Guilt will creep up now and again regardless of how silly you find it. Remember most growth takes place like a mountain range - huge steps up, plunges back down, plateaus where you think everything is stable, then cliffs, then long painful climbs...it takes time and setbacks, but when you look back you can see how far you've risen.
That sounded goofy.
The other part of the answer is that you stay open minded enough to revisit your values and decisions. Maybe 'they' were right about some things! I mean, people focus too much on materialism in this country, but at the same time it's not a bad thing to have enough money to be able to afford a nice house in a safe neighborhood with good health insurance. It probably is a bad thing to die at 50 from an aneurism because you felt the need to work 80 hours a week!
I was quiet at Andrea's party because I barely knew anyone there, and other than Andrea no one well. I'm actually quite obnoxious a lot of the time! ;) Feel free to bug me though.
Re: May I ask a question?
How do you let it go? Um, you don't. Bad answer?
Ok, well, you do let it go but it takes AGES. What you learn first is how to quickly recognize when you are engaging in a thought pattern that isn't necessarily reflective of you and your values. You win with logic in the short term - and only in the long term do you work through the feelings. Guilt will creep up now and again regardless of how silly you find it. Remember most growth takes place like a mountain range - huge steps up, plunges back down, plateaus where you think everything is stable, then cliffs, then long painful climbs...it takes time and setbacks, but when you look back you can see how far you've risen.
That sounded goofy.
The other part of the answer is that you stay open minded enough to revisit your values and decisions. Maybe 'they' were right about some things! I mean, people focus too much on materialism in this country, but at the same time it's not a bad thing to have enough money to be able to afford a nice house in a safe neighborhood with good health insurance. It probably is a bad thing to die at 50 from an aneurism because you felt the need to work 80 hours a week!
I was quiet at Andrea's party because I barely knew anyone there, and other than Andrea no one well. I'm actually quite obnoxious a lot of the time! ;) Feel free to bug me though.